What difference does the personality of partners make in a happy marriage? What makes them live happily together? What characteristics do they want to see in each other to maintain the marriage and continue to gain happiness? What factors put a marriage at risk of being destroyed? What role does your personality traits play in determining if you will have a marriage?
Being apart of the same religion, same circle of friends, same church, and even attending the same school and sharing common interests -will these factors guarantee that your marriage will be a happy one? What are your thoughts? Before we move forward, it would make sense to have a discussion about what it really means to have a happy marriage. What is a happy marriage? A happy marriage can be broadly defined as one where the couple enjoy each other’s company, love each other, enjoy depending on each other, and are happy to be in a relationship together. When an individual is in a happy marriage, they experience feelings of genuine joy when they meet their partner in the evening after work. Similarly, they miss each other when they have to be separated for whatever reason. Not only do they share romantic love, but they are also friendly. Because they respect each other as individuals, if you asked them if they think they could live alone on an island with the partner, they would say yes without delay. They don’t depend on distractions such as kids, friends, or live in a state of pretentious happiness with their partner.
You would be surprised to discover how many marriages are not happy. A lot of marriages remain in tact because of the fear of the anguish that comes with separation. These relationships are not bound by feelings of pleasure and happiness but the anticipated pain of being separated. What impact would a separation have on the kids? How will I live alone? What about the division of assets? The fear of the pain of separation is so significant that an unhappy existence appears to be a better option. Is this good life? No, it is mere existence.
Coming back to the title of this article, what role does your partners’ personality play in attaining a happy marriage? The first criteria which has nothing to do with personality is love. Not the passionate type of love that might die soon but genuine affections and care for each other. For example, one of the personality traits that contributes is cleanliness. If the husband thinks an extreme level of cleanliness is important and his spouse cannot be bothered one bit about how clean the home is, do you think they will be happy with each other? Probably not. They will spend a lot of time arguing about cleanliness. This was only an example. Let us take another example. The wife is a giving type of person while the husband is really stingy. What do you think would happen in this situation? Habits, values, nature, personal beliefs, life goals, and all the other traits that make us unique as human beings play a vital role in making a happy marriage. Emotional traits also play an important role. For instance, if one partner has a quick-temper they’ll make life difficult for their spouse. Consider all of the personality traits, emotional makeup, and find out if there are areas of commonality. Minor differences are usually disregarded because of the love that a couple shares. But it is important to mention that if the personality differences are significant, eventually the love will be sacrificed. In other words, the love that drew the couple together initially will eventually become the main victim of these differences.